Dating a separated man with a child
For what you're doing with this married man is a tough situation.
You're holding out hope for the fairy tale that he'll wake up one morning and see the error in his ways and commit to you.
With my ex-husband and I, when we separated, there WAS no reconciliation because he left me and he with multiple women after me. Dating never crossed my mind, getting my life back on track and in good financial shape was the only thing keeping me going. A close coworker talked to me about his marriage problems, and eventually they were separated, living in different households. He was also dating someone well before the separation as well, and told her he was divorcing his wife. He's taken back the divorce papers and they are working with counselors to save their marriage. And divorce is a huge deal, financially, socially and mentally.
It's not easy, even if it was a simple no contest divorce. There is no such thing as a separated man - they're either single or married. Four months is a short time to be considering marriage. Of concern also is the reason that he doesn't want a divorce; because he doesn't want to pay child support.
If you come across as a normal human being and not an over-sexualized creep during the first conversation, well, then you are already ahead of the curve.
We started talking, then texting, and he told me straight-up that he'd been separated for six months. I would text him something funny to start off the day, and we would spend the majority of the day talking about what made each other tick. We shared the little things, the childhood things, the adult things, the big things.
His relationship with the children and what he actually does for them far out weighs him getting a divorce to marry you after four months. OP: I could've written your same story many years ago.
I finally took the advice others are giving here and ended it.
You're keeping him emotionally warm at night, while you're freezing because you gave him the extra blanket.
Even if that does happen, are you willing to sit on your hands and wait for it to happen?
You have only been with this man 4 months and you're already frustrated with what he's doing.
It was an in-between area that could have only gone one of two ways. I guess you could say the pieces of the puzzle just didn't fit at the time.
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