Dating other people with herpes
Q: I've been seeing this girl and we've really been hitting it off. But my gut reaction is to ghost and never look back—I don't want herpes! – Jason, San Antonio A: Finding out your partner has herpes can be a bombshell at any point in the relationship. But it is not nearly as unique or earth-shattering as you think it is. I know there a lot of thoughts and anxieties swirling in your head—about your partner’s health, about your health, about your partner’s fidelity, about your future (or lack thereof) with your partner—and we’ll get to all that. My head tells me to handle this like a mature gentleman.That virus can (but may not) be transmitted to any surface of someone else’s body, via physical contact.If it does transmit, there’s an ~80% chance that they won’t recognize any symptoms from the infection.Some couples have sex with condoms every time, others only wear protection during outbreaks or simply avoid contact with the areas where the virus is transmittable.Sores can appear around the mouth, on the genitals, on the thighs, or buttocks, etc.
When prodrome is present, it means the virus is active and the chances of transmission are high. But on the grand scale of things, herpes might be less of a challenge than celiac’s disease or severe nut allergies or even a monthly menstrual cycle.You find the lifestyle and sex life that fits your comfort level.In the same way that no birth control method reduces the chances of pregnancy to zero, couples eventually find the right balance between caution and calculated risk.HSV-1 is the one that usually causes cold sores around your mouth and lips.HSV-2 is the one usually responsible for genital herpes.