Your child still needs you as a father, not as a visitor.
"That should be the most important thing from the man's point of view: His child wants him and his child needs him," Finley says.
Divorced men are also more prone to alcohol problems, so be careful of starting down that road.
"You don't have to drink every day to have a problem," Buser says.
This past summer, I was primping for a date with a really nice guy and looking forward to an amazing dinner.
It was such a treat as I had been so ready to meet new people, enjoy great food and great conversation.
"Maintaining the relationship is important for your child's developmental outcome: social, emotional, and educational." Finley warns against becoming what he calls a "Disneyland dad," who acts as if his role is to show up on weekends and show the kids a good time.
Divorced men are twice as likely to commit suicide as married men."If divorced spouses have a working relationship, they can agree to informally bypass some stipulations," Finley says."Workloads go up and down, schedules can shift, and you want some way to take that into account." If you're a dad, divorce doesn't change that.Buser, Ph D, coauthor of The Guys-Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce.They rush into new relationships -- and often into new marriages -- within the first year.