Etiquette of dating sites
You will come across as lazy or uneducated The response may be by e-mail or online chat If you respond by e-mail and it is ignored try no more than once more Remember at all times to treat each other with dignity and respect If you are going to respond to an ad - be sure that you match the required criteria before you respond – e.g., age range, description, religion, location, interests and so on Do not respond to an ad if you are not genuinely interested.
Consequently, a new set of ‘rules’ have evolved, to protect women in particular, from nasty experiences and to make online dating more friendly, civilized and safe for them. If you are new to online dating the following will help you to participate with dignity and confidence. Save it for your boozing buddies This is not a game. It’s cruel A search for ‘online dating agencies’ produces thousands of online agencies. Others will accept your profile and allow you to view profiles of advertisers free of charge.
One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive.
Put your energy into responding to a good prospect If you have responded to an ad and the reply is a rejection, that’s life. You are one step closer to your love match If the response is from a person clearly outside your stated parameters, they are wasting your time.
Ignore it Always reply to genuinely decent responses, even if the answer is ‘No’.
Always be polite and kind, especially if the answer is ‘No’ Never be too busy to respond appropriately Reply as soon as possible. People are individuals, so, personalise your replies Aha, you have received a promising response or two and you are going to reply Start with a friendly greeting End with a friendly goodbye Use gentle humour if it is part of your personality Punctuate your statements with – (smile) (frown) (beaming) (thinking) or :-) Keep it brief, relevant, light, breezy and interesting Allow the communication to flow Do not get personal Do not trifle with anyone’s emotions Allow the friendship time to develop.
Do not be pushy Do not demand anything When ready, ask, do not push for a phone number or address.