The problem with dating
On the tumblr ‘Trans Men of Grindr’ users post screenshots of conversations on gay apps to show some of the insensitive, unsupportive and downright hostile comments other users send to them spontaneously.
It’s not a purely LGBT problem: trans users on Tinder have also spoken out about their problems--both signs that a larger education of what it is to be trans is needed to prevent users becoming Wikipedia pages rather than fully sexual and individual beings.
Leapolitan responded by saying, “hopefully youll [sic] bite into a poison apple.”In July 2013, gay app Scruff’s newest update included a function that had been a longtime staple for websites like Gay Romeo or Gay.com: the ability to define yourself as any number of ‘communities,’ and also state which ones you sought in a partner.
Grindr introduced the feature themselves in October the same year and called it ‘tribes.’ Among the options for ‘jock’, ‘poz’, ‘leather’ or ‘twink’ are options to identifiy ‘trans’/’transgender’ on Grindr and Scruff respectively.
As a man who has dated using apps himself, he crafted a manifesto, and a code of conduct that he hopes creates a respectful environment.“I think for trans men who are dating every time they hook up they have another coming out,” Sandler said.
In fact, in a recent study of their users internationally, it was the lowest priority for most.There was a lot of positive feedback from people interested in non-gender binary people.I call it ‘the menu’ when I open up these apps, ‘Oh, what’s on the menu today? they streamline this process, when you have a specific taste you can go to that.”Fuentes, like every Grindr or Scruff user (including myself), has dozens of stories of mortification, grotesquery and hilarity: he gathers the worst offenders up on a twitter hashtag: #grindrchronicles. I get a lot of men who are tranny chasers or just obsessed with what’s happening with your genitalia.But these functions have, for some, fetishized trans users as well as help build a group of openly trans users.Some gay apps, like the newer Mister, have not subscribed to the community/tribe model.